I woke up around 1 a.m. and couldn't get back to sleep. My brain was just fizzing with a jumble of abstract, totally meaningless rubbish.
As I lay there in the dark I began to think about funerals of all things. Earlier in the day I had read an article in the Saturday newspaper supplement where the writer described the funeral held for their father who had recently died from COVID 19. I was thinking about what I had read and, from there, my brain moved on to all the funerals I had attended over the past 14 years, starting with that of my own father. All of them were different in some ways (mostly humanist and some church services) but essentially still the same, if that makes sense?
That led me to consider what sort of funeral I would like. After musing on things such as readings and music it struck me that it was all a waste of time. I certainly wouldn't be able to appreciate it and, if it happens to take place in the near future, P is likely to be the only person there.
With that happy thought I eventually drifted off to sleep.
Have you been eating cheese and crackers JayCee?
ReplyDeleteIt does seem a waste of time to make your own funeral plans doesn't it?
No cheese, sadly. Not on a low cholesterol diet 😕
DeleteMust have been the couple of glasses of wine with dinner.
I have myownHumanist funeral all planned to save my son the bother - and if it happens during Covid 19 then all the planning will be of no use. And how to avoid sleepless nights and bad dreams - nothing after 5pm apart from maybe a glass of milk or a milky drink.
ReplyDeleteYou are very well organised Weaver. I may just write out a plan and let my family know, just in case.
DeleteHave you thought of some songs for your funeral JayCee? How about "There's a Party Going On" by Yvonne DeLeon and "Oom-Pah-Pah" from the musical "Oliver!"? I hope you will instruct Lord Peregrine to serve free slices of pork pie and pints of foaming Yorkshire bitter.
ReplyDeleteI was thinking more upmarket- babycham and pineapple on sticks.
DeleteStick some cheese chunks on those sticks too! No need to scrimp.
DeleteThe shorter the funeral the better I say. Get it over and done with and let survivors m
ReplyDeleteDamn...let those mourning move on with their lives. I've told my family I'll come back and haunt them if they start with all the dozens of memorial services. Go out and drink a gin tonic to my memory.....if they want to mind you. Might be a case of outs sight ours mind.
DeleteYou seem to have it all sorted.....as long as it happens soon.
Spit three times and turn around, give your clothes a little shake. Don't want me to out the evil eye on tou
Ha. No long services here In and out of the chapel in 20 minutes. That's your lot.
DeleteWe have decided to have no funeral at all. The body is taken from where ever and that is the last you see of it. I think they call it a direct funeral. You are able to view if you want and get the ashes if you wish. This is much much cheaper and I can see no point in paying huge sums of money for the same thing only done in a church with flowers and hymns.
ReplyDeleteOf course this would not be everyone's choice.
A funeral is such a distressing thing and neither I nor Tom would want to put our family through that.
We can remember our loved one's as they were and of course they would be in our hearts forever.
Briony
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That sounds good to me Briony.
DeleteI was thinking of donating my remains to science. They can use what they want and chuck the rest! No need for a funeral 😉
I did enquire about that but they didn't want either of us, LOL
DeleteI had a relative who managed to get away without anyone knowing until his daughter mentioned it in Christmas cards 8 months later - "George died in April. He didn't want anyone to know." That's an idea I like.
ReplyDeleteSounds OK to me but UF I tried that my sister would never speak to me again 😂
DeleteMorbid thoughts are difficult to dispel when trying to drop off. I usually get up and read for a bit.
ReplyDeleteI didn't want to disturb P by getting up so just lay there, fizzing!
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