An Eventful Morning

Today did not quite go to plan. 

Yesterday evening an elderly family friend rang and asked P if he would call round to her house this morning to "open up".  She had given him a spare key last week, "just in case" as she said.

Over the past few months she seems to have become a little more confused, or perhaps confusing, saying and doing slightly odd things. We put this down to her age - 96 - and increasing physical frailty, although she has managed living on her own ever since her live-in companion (P's father) died 11 years ago.

P popped round to her house after breakfast at 8:30 as he was due to meet friends in Douglas later this morning. 

I received a phone call from him soon afterwards telling me that he had found her body on the kitchen floor and had called 999.

I wonder why she had insisted that he visit her today as it seems such a  coincidence and was not something she had ever asked before.

Poor lady.  She had been telling us for a few years now that she was getting very tired of living and wished it could all be over. 

Poor P for being the one to find her like that.


38 comments:

  1. Oh no - what a shock. It sounds like she'd been planning it then. Your poor husband.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. It was an unpleasant experience. We can just be thankful that she is now at peace, as she wanted.

      Delete
  2. We send our sympathies to P. Maybe she had already had a heart turn or something when she rang P last night. Who knows how we will each in our turn handle it when our time comes (or takes longer than we think it should). We hope your days improves on that shaking start.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. She had been telling P for several weeks that the end was near. She must have felt it.

      Delete
  3. How very difficult for P. As you mention, she must have known. May she rest in peace.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. I hope that it was quick and that she felt nothing. P said that she looked peaceful.

      Delete
  4. A nasty shock but she must have known what was happening. Amazing to live alone to age 96.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. She was very frail physically but we were constantly amazed at how well she managed.

      Delete
  5. She knew she could count on P to take care of things for her. Like you, I am glad she is at peace. Thanks to P for his kindness to her.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. When my father in law knew that he was dying he asked P to promise to look after her and make sure she was OK once he was gone. P has always felt that obligation to her, in memory of his dad.

      Delete
  6. Condolences to you all. Very sad, however she was wonderful to live so long at her own home and manage quite well apparently. Better way to go than be locked away in a facility, or ill for a long time and requiring nursing etc. May she RIP.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Thank you Mary. Yes, I think most people want to stay in their own homes for as long as possible. Her only remaining family are a couple of nieces who live in Australia so she managed with the support of P and one of her female friends.

      Delete
  7. Sounds like my mother in many ways. She said she was ready to die one Christmas Eve to me and said not to worry and not to bother going round as she did not intend to get up. We visited her daily but she said she was perfectly happy but she had had enough of living and we weren't to worry about her and she intended to remain in bed. My brother went round a few days later at 5am as he always did and found her dead on the floor. He rang me, told me and I went back to bed for a couple of hours, nothing to be done at that time of the morning. I later went round at 8am and sorted out the death certificate and undertaker.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Yes. Our friend seemed to have decided it was the end and was making arrangements. She had had enough of living and just wanted to go peacefully.

      Delete
  8. To be 96 and living alone is some achievement.I expect most of us would like to end things like that; at home, no lingering illness... Still always sad though when it comes.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. It was a better way than some people end up, certainly.

      Delete
  9. It must of been an awful shock for P.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. He says he was half expecting it but, yes, still a shock when it happens.

      Delete
  10. Rest in Peace. She was lucky to have you and P and she went knowing you'd sort it all out.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. It is now down to her Executor to sort out everything so at least we don't need to do that.

      Delete
  11. I wonder if there will be a post mortem to determine the exact cause of death. It sounds as though she had reached the end and needed to go. Of course, 96 is a good long innings - if you will excuse the cricketing analogy! I know that Lord Peregrine is a rough tough fell runner but finding a dead body is not a nice experience for anyone to process and live with.

    ReplyDelete
  12. She was taken away to the main hospital's mortuary so there may well be a post mortem, however, as we are not the next of kin nor the executors we shall probably not be informed. P did tell the attending police officer and paramedics about the recent conversations she had with him regarding wanting it all to be over and making sure he was going to be there this morning. We shall just have to wait and see.

    ReplyDelete
  13. What a shock for P. Even though he had been half expecting it it would still be a shock and not sat in a comfortable chair either but laying on the kitchen floor.

    Having worked in a funeral service I would say that there will definitely be a post mortem.

    Condolences to you both and RIP to her.

    ReplyDelete
  14. Never a pleasant experience and one which stays with you for a very long time. I hope P gets comfort from the conversation he had with her.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. I think he feels relieved that she is no longer continuing to live on feeling unhappy.

      Delete
  15. It sounds as if she knew. It also sounds as if she was ready. I cannot help but think how lovely it was to be able to manage right up to the end in her own home. We should all be so lucky. My condolences to you and P.

    ReplyDelete
  16. What a horrible shock for him. It's a pity that she died alone. Poor soul.

    ReplyDelete
  17. So sorry for your husband to be the one to find her. I hope he has no guilt feelings about going earlier or anything, people tend to feel they should have known or done something more when people die but really it sounds like she'd made up her mind to go. I suspect she went happily knowing he'd deal with things in the morning. x

    ReplyDelete
  18. Oh poor P finding her like that. She was ready to go …. Even though she had lived a long life, it’s still a shock when family/friends pass on. Hope P is OK. Thinking of you all. XXXX

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Thank you Jackie. She was quite unhappy towards the end so it came as a relief really.

      Delete
  19. There is nothing I can say that hasn't already been said. I hope that it doesn't dwell with P too much.

    Thank you for your update too.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Thank you Graham. P is quite sanguine about it all and doesn't appear to have been affected too much.

      Delete
  20. What a shock for P! I hope it wasn't too traumatic. I expect she knew and I hope it was quick and painfree...
    xxx

    ReplyDelete

Although I am quite used to talking to myself, any comments on my posts are very welcome, provided they are not abusive. I do reply to them so please check back. It's good to talk (!)