A Nasty Feeling

 We discovered today, via a third party, that a local resident  has used the Memorial Garden opening hours as an opportunity to snoop around our property while we were both out.

P thinks he may have met him walking down our drive as he returned from his morning run. I was out walking. P assumed he had just been to visit the gravestones but now we think about the brief conversation they had, we feel that he must have been our snooper.

We have been happy to welcome genuine visitors who are interested in the chapel and its burials, but this has left me feeling quite uncomfortable.





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    1. I am thinking we may need to get one installed.

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    2. What Tasker said! I would not like this.

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  2. Really sad that someone would abuse your kindness. Yes to the security camera, although sorry it is needed.

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    1. Expensive and inconvenient for us to install in our listed property. What a nuisance.

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  3. How annoying to think you would have to stay home each time that part of the grounds are open. You would need several cameras at various points to catch the unwanted nosy parker

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    1. Exactly, Cathy. Very inconvenient all round.

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  4. How sad that somebody has to do this and take advantage of your kindness. If you know who it is perhaps you could say something to him in the nicest possible way.

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    1. P is so cross I fear he will confront him if he sees him again. I hate unpleasantness.

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  5. Oh,dear! That is disturbing. I wouldn't have been comfortable with it either.

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    1. Nope. Nothing there again. Some comments just seem to disappear into the ether never to be seen again.

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  7. We have a downstairs bathroom, and my wife once found someone we know looking through the window as she was showering. We said nothing as it would have been devastating for his family.

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    1. You are very tolerant. He would probably have received a slap here.

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  8. Would cats be welcome of snoop about your garden? We might set off your camera traps though.

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    1. We already have several feline snoopers. They leave little parcels in our freshly weeded soil.

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  9. Why don't you get a dog and a kennel to tell you if there are uninvited visitors?

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    1. Ooh.. a big Beware of the Dog sign perhaps?

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  10. There are always people around who think it alright to have a snoop around I'm afraid. Some go as far as to think it is funny. It most definitely isn't. Some will look through windows and make fun later of what they see. I am sorry this has happened to you Jaycee. xx

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    1. Thanks Rachel. It is quite a horrible feeling, even though he didn't take anything. Although he did try to cause trouble by saying things about some work we have been doing, which is how we learned about his visit.

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  11. This is awful!
    Some people can't resist being nosy if they have the opportunity. If it continues, security cameras may be the only answer, but what a shame that you have to resort to them. Perhaps a polite notice pointing out that your house is off-bounds?
    When we first moved here, I was sitting outside on the terrace, when a man I'd never seen before, boldly opened the gate, walked down the drive as though he owned the place, and calmly started taking photographs over the wall! No explanation, or apology, and when I asked why he hadn't rung the bell and had the decency to ask if he could come in, all he said was that he lived in the house below! Over the years we learned that he watched all the neighbours through very powerful binoculars!

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  12. Oh JayCee, that's not good and must be very unnerving for you both. But, he is probably an isolated case and is just a drawback to living in such a lovely house and garden. He is probably harmless and just nosey. I guess it was inevitable that it would happen as the memorial gardens are open to the public. Try not to worry ..... I'm sure it's a one off. . XXXX

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    1. Thanks Jackie xxx
      A stiff G&T helped calm me down xx

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    2. Jacqueline, we had a man (who we knew) walk through our garden, about 4 or 5 times a week, for over two years. He let his dog poo on the lawn, and never spoke to us even when we were standing nearby. Eventually my wife asked him not to do it as we had 7 under-10's coming for the summer, and the lawn was where they played. He stopped his trespassing, but told everyone how nasty we'd been, and we became the 'baddies'. You can't win.

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    3. Awful behaviour. There are some nasty people around.

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  13. Nasty neighbour! Wonder what he's so interested in

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    1. Trying to cause trouble it seems.

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    2. That is downright nasty. I agree a security camera would be the solution or maybe just have a stiff word with them and say that you've rumbled what they've done. I wonder if that's why the previous owners couldn't wait to move out of there?

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    3. Could well be, ADDY. I am not moving just yet so we shall do what we can to deter the blighters.

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  14. Too bad the only access to the Memorial Garden is through your property. Is there no way another opening could be created? I suppose a sign might help but jerks usually don't read them! (I had another word instead of "jerks" but I cleaned it up!) I would speak to the snooper. I really think most people wouldn't take advantage of the access.

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    1. Ha yes I thought of a different word too.
      It's not possible to access the Memorial Garden any other way unfortunately so we just need to be more vigilant.

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  15. I'm almost speechless. How about trying a dummy camera for a while and seeing if it's commented upon.

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    1. I think we need a real one. An additional expense and inconvenience unfortunately.

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